Kenyan Pastor claims title to marry 4 wives as angry wife destroys property

A Kenyan Pastor at weekend says culture of his community allows him to marry four wives, as his aggrieved first wife accused him of infidelity and went on a rampage, destroying his café in Ukunda, Kwale County, Kenya.

Angry woman1Mrs Ruth Nyaga, accompanied by her friend, stormed her husband’s restaurant situated at Kona Ya Chafu area and started throwing tables and chairs, bottles in the air, forcing dining customers to flee for safety.

She claims her husband of 20 years, Daniel Nyaga, put up a café for hismpango wa kando, and he abandoned his family to wallow in poverty.

Eye witnesses say meals were littered on the floor and a television set broken to pieces as other facilities were looted.

“I inquired from my husband if he had completed putting up the cafeteria.

“He was shocked that I knew of his secret investment. Angry at me, he questioned who informed me about his underground project,” the aggrieved woman told eDaily.

Ruth reportedly found out that her husband was secretly seeing another woman – who he allegedly put up the hotel business for.

 “If only my husband had informed me of his clandestine activities, I would not have resorted to doing what I did (destroying hotel property).
“I would have warmly welcomed his second wife,” added Nyaga.

She said that her husband “enslaved” their son at the hotel – only for the proceeds to benefit the other woman.

“He (husband) took my son and employed him as a handyman.

“He recently fired him, claiming that the boy stole KSh500 from the hotel.

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“I am very bitter at him (husband); we have three children together. The first born is 20, the second born is 14 and the last born is 10.

“I decided to raid the hotel because the man has been misusing my son, he works like a slave at the hotel – and I don’t see any returns coming home,” Nyaga said.

At the scene, the mother of three shouted at her husband: “Today I want to know my status – am I your wife or not? If you openly denounce me, I would not bother you again.”

The unapologetic husband, and pastor at New Apostolic Faith Church, said he has the rights to marry more women and that his wife should not cause chaos over “trivial issues”.

The husband says he married according to Tharaka community customs, which allow a man to marry up to four wives.

“I am from the Tharaka community, so I can marry up to four wives, even your dad has two wives.

“I am not under any obligation to inform you (of my hotel business and presence of second woman).

“Even your father has two wives,” Nyaga told his wife.

Ruth’s friend Lydia Kawira accuses Nyaga’s lover of having the habit of seducing married men – and using herself as an example, she said the wayward woman tried to lure her husband on several occasions.

Kawira says her husband fell for the woman’s charms and started dating her secretly. Kawira found out almost immediately and extinguished the illicit affair before it grew deep.

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Ruth accused Nyaga’s friend, Chimera Mwamunga, of bad influence to her husband as he (Chimera) encouraged Nyaga to get another woman.

Mwamunga maintained that he does not see anything wrong in Nyaga having more than one wife.

Nonetheless, he observes the matter should have been resolved at home – and not in the public sphere.

“This is so shameful; such incidents don’t happen in these areas, we only see them on television.

“The woman’s actions have run her husband’s business into losses.

“The wife would have killed the other woman; she was armed with a knife,” he said.

Mr and Mrs Nyaga headed home from the drama venue while arguing. It is not yet established what followed thereafter.


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  1. ON THE CONTROVERSY REGARDING CHRISTIAN MEN BEING ENCOUGARED BY SOME MOGs TO BE POLYGAMOUS, here is my candid understanding of the truth of the Scripture: Permit me to be a bit detailed, though not exhaustive, as a necessity. Let’s start with Acts 17:30-31, which applies here: “The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent, because he has fixed a day on which he will judge the world in righteousness by a man whom he has appointed; and of this he has given assurance to all by raising him from the dead” (ESV). Even divorce which some MOGs and churches have practiced and permitted, Jesus said Moses permitted the people to divorce because of their hardness of hearts, but “it was not so from the beginning” (Matt. 19:8). Paul also confirms this in Eph. 5:31. Who else could have revealed God’s perfect will about marriage, polygamy, divorce, etc. than Christ who was in the beginning and has tested our human struggles with sin? And which apostle’s teaching could have been more reliable than that of Paul, who wrote most books of the New Testament?
    All the laws of the Old Testament, with their merits and demerits, and the behaviours of the people that God overlooked in the past, are described as “the shadow of the things that were to come,” but that “the reality, however, is found in Christ” (Col. 2:17). This shows that the polygamous Abraham and others “survived” God’s permissive will, waiting for His perfect will to be revealed in Christ. 1 Pt. 1:10-12 shows that the OT prophets and even angels envied the salvation and grace we have in Christ, because it enables us, through the Holy Spirit fully revealed and at work in us, to live above their moral standards. These verses, among others, dispel the argument for mentioning Abraham, David, and others as polygamous. Their lifestyle does not reveal God’s perfect will, rather, it reveals the seriousness of sin and the need for Christ to come and set things right and be the highest standard. That is why God has not set any of them as the highest standard for Christian life, but has only set Christ as the highest standard, for He is “the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation” (Col. 1:15). He was in the beginning, before Abraham, and knowns what God’s ideal for our lives are. There is a world of difference between “what is in the Bible” and “what is approved in the Bible.” Therefore, any teaching or lifestyle in the OT, NT, early Church history, in our culture, from any MOG, must be tested by the lifestyle and teachings of Christ as the highest standard. Polygamy fails this test! Moreover, the existence of marriage as an illustration of the union between Christ and the church cannot exist in a polygamous marriage, for Christ has only one Church, his Bride, while He is the Bridegroom (Rev. 19:7-9; Eph. 5:25-27).
    Quoting 1 Tim. 3:1-2 to say only church leaders are expected to be monogamous is pure heresy and misinformed. The context is that of communities who had newly received the gospel. Some of the men were polygamous, while the standard of the Gospel is monogamy. In other not to water down the standards of the Gospel, those who would be made leaders had to be monogamous in order to set the right example for others to follow. There is no different Bible for church leaders. Every Christian lifestyle required of a leader is required of believers, such as hospitality, humility, self-control, etc. which are all listed along with being a husband of one wife.
    This other historical error needs to be corrected. Monogamy is not a European or Western culture, and polygamy is not an exclusively African culture. Rather, both are indicative of the effect of the fall of man in sin, deviating from God’s original purpose. In pre-Christian Europe, people practiced polygamy too, and in pre-Christian Africa, there were men who practiced monogamy. The Gospel transforms cultures, especially the sinful and dehumanizing aspects of it. So even if polygamy is “our culture,” the Gospel has, or should transform it.
    Consequently, a call to return to polygamy is a call to turn from the “reality” to the “shadow” (Col. 2:17); a call to apostasy; and a call to reverse civilization back to dehumanizing women as “properties of men,” which denigrates their being created equally in God’s image. At the social level, polygamy doesn’t cure lust and adultery; neither does it improve the moral standards of our societies. The Gospel of Christ does. Even if not as Christians, if men want polygamy, justice demands that they accept polyandry too, where a woman can marry more than one man at once. Anything less is injustice and power play. MARANATHA, for the end times are here! Dogara Ishaya Manomi.

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